5.22.2011

on the plus side: fat.

The word 'fat' has so many meanings, but in this instance it has a negative connotation.

Friday morning I woke up and was getting ready for work. As I tried on different outfit combinations, I felt my mood going south. It was one of those days where nothing fit right and I just felt large. I examined myself in the mirror, poking at this bulge and that lump, frowning at my reflection. How did I let this happen? How did I allow myself to gain so much weight? It's a hard truth. I'm big. And I have no one to blame but myself.

This post is hard to type. Putting it out there like this... I know some people may read this and judge, but oh well. Eff it.

I pride myself on being able to dress nicely for my figure. But saying that feels conditional. Like when people say, "she's cute... for a big girl". I don't want to dress "nice... for my figure". I don't want my figure to matter - not to me or anyone else. Not as a condition, at least.

I mentioned before that I don't hate my body. Maybe I need to. Maybe that would light a fire under my ass to do something constructive. But how can you make yourself hate yourself? And why would you want to? I know that's not the answer. I just need to stop making excuses for myself. I can't just look at the mirror that flatters me. I need to look at the one that shows a fatter me. That was corny, I'm sorry. But really, it's time for me to be accountable to myself. My birthday is right around the corner. I don't want to look into the mirror next year only to see the same body, or worse, an even larger one. With all the starts and stops I've had, I could have been a lot healthier and happier by now...

This is the part where I would resolve to do this and that, but I won't do that this time. I already know what I need to do.

It's time to put up or shut up.

4 comments:

Nina said...

you can do it!! i won't say resolve to hate your body..i think caring for it by losing weight comes out of love more than hate. love is a much stronger emotion than hate.

Diddy Bop said...

i know hate is wrong, but you're right. if i truly love myself then i need to take care of my body better. i only get one, so i better make the most of it lol

LeeLee said...

I so feel you on this! Love yourself enough to feed your body the right foods and to workout a couple of times during the week! I've been there and done that! If you need any advice you know where to find me!
Take care You!

Diddy Bop said...

hey leelee! i will definitely be coming to you for advice. actually here's a question: do you have any heart healthy or vegetable recipes you'd care to share? i hate vegetables, i need a way to eat them where they don't taste like death lol